Bismillah Rahman Raheem
Dear Believers,
Ramadan is the month of fasting, tranquillity, peace & harmony both within & without.
So, how do we deal with it.
Wait! Why do I say "we" when I mean "me"?After all, I'm the one who needs to be reminded about this one [LOL]
OK. Now let's all take a moment to think what benefits Ramadan has for us on this most important subject. After all: Anger destroys relationships faster than fire can burn up a piece of paper.
1st - Fasting -
The hadith of the prophet, peace be upon him, tells us that if we are fasting and someone is trying to argue with us, we should say to them -
"Anna saaum! Anna Saaum!" (I'm fasting! I'm fasting!)
"Anna saaum! Anna Saaum!" (I'm fasting! I'm fasting!)
But, let's be realistic. This should work on the believers, but what about the guys at work, or people on the bus, or somebody making fun of our clothes while we stand in line at the Post Office?
2nd - Recognize the Problem -
There are a number of things we can do, but first of all know you are not the only one with this problem.
Many of us go through some of the same things. It is very wrong and terrible in front of Allah and we must all repent and work on ourselves.
3rd - Don't Get Angry -
Someone once asked the prophet, peace be upon him, to give him good advice and the prophet, peace be upon him, said, "Laa taghthab".
And the man said, "More..?" And our prophet, peacebe upon him, said again, "Laa taghthab". And then again he answered with the same reply.
What is "taghthab"? It comes from the same root as the word "ghathab". And another form is the word "maghthubi". Where do we know this word from? - "Gharil maghthubi alayhim wala dhaaaaalleeen" (Not the way of the maghthubi alayhim [those who have Allah's Wrath], or the Dhaaaleen [nor those who are lost]). Usually we translate the word "ghathub" as "anger", but it may be closer to the meaning of "wrath".This kind of anger produces action and that's why we must try to remove it from our hearts.
4th - CHANGE - Sit Down! Take a shower! Lay Down!
5th - DON'T LOOK
Stop looking at the person you are angry with, close your mouth and don't speak. When angry looking at or talking to the other person only makes it worse for both of you. Just look away and be careful not to show anger in your face or movements.
6th - RECONIZE RELAITY
Tell yourself the other person might be right, even if you are sure they are not. Most of the time you will find the person did have some points but you didn't really give them time to express all of it. Also, many times people don't see what you are trying to say either. The more you get upset, the easier it is for the shayton to get you to say the wrong things and make the matters even worse.
7th - REMEMBER THE FIRE INSIDE
Prophet, peace be upon him, also told us, "The shayton runs through your body like your blood" and he's right.
Have you experienced the heat come over you and the hot feeling in your back and head and then all over the body?
Have you experienced the heat come over you and the hot feeling in your back and head and then all over the body?
Shayton is made from a "smokeless fire"and that is exactly what we feel when we get so upset - shayton in us.
8th - LOOK AROUND -
Then look around the community at our young people, our youth and even the youngsters in the lower grades. They also have problems and they don't know how to deal with them. So that is why the more frustrated children get into drug programs, alcohol, sex and gambling - some even kill other people or themselves. All of it to make them feel some kind of 'peace' in their lives.
9th - HELP OTHERS -
Try to work with some of the youth or others who will listen to you and learn from you about these things. As you help others, then Allah will help you with the same solutions, inshallah.
Our deen gives us all the things we need in this life and we know it, and all we have to do is to sacrifice for Allah, and give up the things of this world in favor of the things of the Next World.
10th - REST & PRAY -
Spend more time resting and sleeping and less time eating and just joking around. Sleep is crucial, as is a good balanced diet. Actually, the less meat is better I found out from Islam that eating small amounts is even better.
Make sure to pray on time, fast several days every month, recite all of surah Baqarah in your home at least every third day. If you don't know it, play it on CD or tape. Then be sure to recite that last 2 or 3 surahs from Quran every morning and every night.
Remember Allah and do extra salat and ask Allah to protect you from the shayton.
All this helps me forget why I got so angry and move on to other things.
All this helps me forget why I got so angry and move on to other things.
Take your time & read all this again!
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Dr Shameer, may Allah reward you for all your hard efforts and sacrifices in Ramadan and all year, ameen.
Try to keep in mind the old saying, 'You catch more flies with honey, than vinegar'.
Your family has rights on you. You must remain calm and cool so they will like what they see and want to become more like you and the believers. If we are hard on them, they will run further away, not come closer.
Try to follow these 10 Steps and let us know how it helps,inshallah .
I tried to convince my parents , they never listen to me.When they deny the facts , i become angry .
The reason for my anger is to help them from going to hell.
They sometimes mock at me saying that i shud cut my beard and wear long pants since i am a doctor.
Its all different for me from the time i understud about islam (when i got hidaya).
I quaral with my sister coz i want her to stop watching movies and chatting.
My sister is full time infront of TV and Facebook.
I advice her she never gave an ear.And now i am not that happy, joking youth I was before.
My parents says that i am very angry after becoming a salafi. Why they are not understanding that Allah will punish them for associating patners with him , for taking loans fron bank , for watching movies, for following innovations.
Yes i am angry for their good....but they totally abandon me.
Should this anger bring me hell rather than heaven.?
I cry to my lord to pass this cup from me... to give my family hidaya.
My dawath always ends with my mom saying . .
[EDITOR to the Good Doctor: Can you take some of your own medicine? -- Meaning: Is this the same way you treat your patients?
Are you this tough on sick people? Do you expect them to just give up everything they have always believed, only because to have ordered it?
IDEA: Why not smile, be patient, listen, show kindness -- and thank Allah for the fact you are so blessed by Him. After all, you're a doctor, you're successful, you're so religious and now you are righteous... Almost perfect - right?
Let them hear it from other sources, books, tapes, DVDs (our websites and TV shows).
And keep making dua for them in the late night prayers.
Advice: "LIGHTEN UP"]
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